Do you believe you can change your beliefs?

Do you believe you can change your beliefs?

by | Feb 2, 2019 | beliefs, confidence, Thoughts

Do you believe you can change your beliefs?

Now there’s a question…

A while back I was a distributor for a well-known UK based, Magnotherapy company and had been asked to give a talk on Beliefs and the place they hold in building your business.

The concept of magnotherapy itself brings up a great deal about belief, placebo effect and such like but I was talking to self employed entrepreneurs about how their belief effects their success.

I opened the talk with this simple question…

Do you believe you can change your beliefs?

I clearly remember an older chap, sitting in the front row, stern face, arms crossed who immediately shouted out with absolute certainty

“NO!”

I looked him square in the eye and told him he was right.

He looked confused. He expected an argument. But he was indeed right. His belief that he cannot change his belief, keeps his belief intact. To experience anything other than that belief is impossible. Of course, the caveat here is ‘without conscious effort’.

Our beliefs help us make sense of our world, they create our reality. If one of your beliefs is shown to be untrue, your world is rocked, and you start to question everything else you hold true.

So let me ask you some questions…

  • Do you believe you are a fearful skier?
  • Do you believe you can overcome this fear and learn to enjoy your skiing?
  • Do you believe doing this is difficult, will take a lot of hard work and a long time?

or

  • Do you believe that anything is possible? That you have untapped potential? That you can affect your outer world simply by addressing your inner world?
  • and that change is easy?

Whatever you answered to every one of those questions is true for you! Your answers highlight your deep-seated beliefs.

But now let me ask you again…

Do you believe you can change your beliefs?

If you can reach out to the new possibility or even simply imagine for a moment that this belief is true, then you are ready for change. You are ready to take your fear by the throat, look it in the eye, smile and say goodbye, secure in the knowledge that you can and will change.  

And of course, there are no pre-requisites or qualifications needed for you to take my online course except maybe to believe change is inevitable when you do. 

 

 

You can only think one thought at a time

You can only think one thought at a time

by | Feb 6, 2018 | confidence, Keep it simple, Thoughts

Yesterday I took a trip over to The Chill Factor near Manchester, UK with a client of mine who hadn’t been skiing for 6 years because she had lost her confidence on the slopes.  She’s now booked to go on a family holiday over the New Year and was dreading it!  In fact, when I suggested we have a couple of hours on the indoor slope it took all her courage to say yes!

As you can imagine, the first run down after six years off was tense!  But she did it!  Then we started on re-building her confidence.  ’What’s your goal for the session?’ I asked.  ’To have a run without panicking’ she answered.  A great goal in many ways, but not so good in others.

A goal really needs to fulfil the 3 P’s – Present, Personal and Positive – well, as the song says, two out of three ain’t bad!  But I needed her to have a POSITIVE aim for our session so her goal became ‘To ski down relaxed and happy and having FUN!’  Now there’s a great goal!!!

Over the next few runs I gave her a few of my simple tips to work on from focussing on what her feet were doing inside her boots to bouncing along like Tigger (you really had to be there!)  and before long she relaxed and actually started smiling as she came down the slope!  She realised that without mentioning anything to do with technique, her skiing automatically changed.

How can this happen?  I explained that our bodies know how to balance, how to change direction.  As a racquet ball player she understood as I asked her if she has to think about running, or stopping or changing direction to reach a shot?  Of course not, she said.  And so it is with skiing.  Yes we need to have the basics under our belt but if you are in a panicky or frightened state, technique flies out of the window.

As the time passed I was aware that our session was nearing it’s end I gave her one final tip and then simply said ‘This is going to be your best run yet’.  The difference was AMAZING!  When she reached the bottom, smiling and whooping I asked what had made the difference?  ’Well’ she said, ‘All the way down I was thinking  ’I wonder why this is going to be my best run?’  And because of that thought – it was!

You see, you can only think one thought at a time.  And the thoughts we think create our actions which determine our results.  The thought I had unconsciously planted in her head was that she was going to have her best run yet, words which she repeated over in her mind as she skied joyfully down the slope!

I know that for many people this sounds just too simple to be true – but take it from me, my client and her now VERY happy family – SIMPLE REALLY WORKS!