I’ve had so many weeks skiing and each year have become more fearful, anxious, upset and frustrated. My husband and friends are mad for it, but for some reason I have never truly enjoyed skiing. So before our annual trip this year I decided to do something different. I initially looked at therapy, but decided it didn’t really fit with me. After a few internet searches I found your book and downloaded it to my kindle.

I completely connected with your words and in so many places I laughed out loud as it felt like you were writing about me! I then decided that I wanted a hard copy of the book, mainly so I could flick through and add notes. I took the book with me as you suggested, chose what to focus on and kept my diary. I actually cannot believe the transformation. Instantly I was standing tall, taking up my space and telling myself “1 and 2 and turn”, I also developed a little ‘thing’ where I focus on my breathing, posture and told the demon in my head to F off. My husband, Phil, could not believe how different I looked and he was so complimentary and just so lovely. I have no idea if my actual technique improved, in fact I couldn’t give a stuff if it had improved or not. I was able to control my fear, relax and smile, laugh and joke my way down some slopes that in previous years I had sworn, frozen and cried down.

Our daughter Florence who is 5 skied with us and saw me happy and having fun, this definitely helped her to feel confident too.

This year I skied from the very top to the bottom of the mountain, we stuck to green and blue slopes, but I did it and blooming loved it. It has been the best ski week I/we have ever had.

I could go on and on…. but the only other thing I want to say is thank you. I hope you know what a difference you have made.

Hi Kay,

Thank you so much.  I have just returned from my best ski trip ever in the Italian Dolomites.  We had good weather and fantastic snow but best of all I had more skiing confidence than I have ever had.  I skied six full days, something I have not done for a long time, including three days touring with our courier/guide.  I tackled high, steep red runs which I would not have considered before, or have stood petrified at the side.  My friends said I skied with fluid, rhythmic turns like never before and my previously sceptical husband said the improvement in my skiing was unbelievable and I was skiing better than he had ever seen in 30 years!

My fear has not totally gone away yet but I have learned to manage and suppress it and I will look forward to next season to do the course again and build on this year’s improvement to get even better.

Last week I completed my aim of skiing the Sella Ronda, with enjoyment, on the second day and on the last day skied the “Hidden Valley” with our guide, something which I would never have considered before.

Thank you so much.

Hi Kay,
Just wanted to say a massive thank you for the course, book and tape.
I have just returned from my best Ski holiday so far and now encouraging my husband to book another one for next year already. Awarded most improved skier out of our group(23 of us) this is the first year I pushed myself out of my comfort zone and have returned feeling very proud of myself.
I listened to your tape morning and night and focused on a few tips each day. The squeezing of the pole handle certainly helped when facing challenging runs.
Once again many thanks

I have returned from my skiing trip.  I had a great time and skied really well in fact I did a run which previously I have taken my skis off and walked!!!  I did a lot of singing much to the horror of those in my party as my singing voice is not the best and  have come home feeling very positive and looking forward to going again, normally I come home disappointed, cross with myself and apprehensive about going again.   This year I hadn’t skied for 2 years.  My sister lives in Bulgaria near Borovets so we usually ski once a year with them.  She thought I had had skiing lessons since my last trip as my skiing had improved so much.  Thank you! 

Just to say I’ve just come back from Austria and your tips definitely worked.

We have planned another trip in six weeks so I’ll be working on my fitness in the meantime and listening to the audio recording which helped enormously.

Everything you said about yourself I could wholeheartedly identify with so I’m looking forward to the next holiday with excitement not dread!!

I think it will positively impact on many areas too which is a bonus.

When you said a friend said to you that you ski like you live your life then that resonated with me too!

No more hanging back and being a shrinking violet, I want to be out there like the rest of them!!

Thank you so much Zoe Xx

Until I discovered Kay’s Ski With Confidence programme I dreaded skiing holidays.  While I loved the whole feeling of being in the mountains, the actual skiing caused me so much anxiety that I started feeling stressed as soon as my family discussed booking the holiday!  I really wanted to be able to enjoy it and Kay’s wonderful tips and techniques have meant that I can.  My favourite of the tips is to imagine breathing in through your mouth and out through your feet – this one makes me relax my body and head!  I also love the instruction to sing and since learning this one, am amazed by the amount of children just naturally singing to themselves while heading down the mountain.

I used Kay’s book, did the on line course and was lucky enough to have a fantastic one-to-one coaching session with Kay.  This allowed me to really drill down into what my issues were and how I could reframe them and also taught me how helpful it is to involve those you are skiing with, in how they can help you.

I would suggest that rather than subject yourself to lesson after lesson as I did, try this programme – it’s the best thing I did for my skiing. 

Thank you so much Kay.

 

Hi Kay,

I just wanted to say a big “thank you” for your course.  I’m a late starter to skiing (approx. 45 when I got going, and I turn 52 this year) and it’s really been 2 steps forward and 1 back since then.  I married into a skiing family, and love the idea of skiing and being in the mountains, and I progressed quickly even though each trip included at least one event where I was terrified and out of my depth.  Then I crashed on hard, wind-scoured snow and tore my ACL and had a knee reconstruction 3 years ago and completely lost my nerve.  I found your course and completed it, and have just returned from a week in Niseko, Japan, where I skied with confidence!  This included standing on the top of the mountain without getting vertigo or feeling terrified of how I was going to get down.  All your prompts and tips for staying strong and focussed worked and I skied better than ever, even though the spring snow wasn’t particularly inviting or easy to ski on. 

Many thanks to you – and I can’t say how much it means that you are an older woman offering this encouragement to me at a time when common sense might tell me I was dreaming to think I could be learning such a physically and mentally demanding skill!  I also love that your NLP skills are transferable and I will apply them in other areas of my life.

With best wishes,

Dear Kay,

Thought you might want to share in my success. What a great week of skiing I am having. I honestly thought yesterday when approaching a blue I had never skied before “well sure this will be good fun, I know I can do this”. And I did and am so proud and happy it’s ridiculous.

So thanks again for your good coaching. It is life changing

I had to send you a quick email! I sing….Elvis….love me tender….the steeper the hill the louder I get!  And it’s working!  I am relaxing enough to feel my body and my feet and skis….and actually having fun!  Thank you….I am feeling that skiing is just the beginning of changes.

Grateful in New York!!!!

Hello from Buffalo, New York.

Well Kay – ski season may be over here in the Northeast, but you were right – skiing was just the beginning.  As of Saturday – I am officially on the Board of Directors at my Ski Club – Buffalo Ski Club! I am typing this, but I can hardly believe it.  I am not sure how singing on the hill, to get my mind off of the fear, gave me courage to run for the board ?

And in my love relationship I am facing the fear that comes with commitment…I am re-thinking those old thoughts that no longer serve me.

Thanks again Kay – for doing what you do.

I look forward to sharing your website with my fellow skiers!

Singing Elvis in New York,

Hi Kay,

Thank you for your encouraging email, and your amazing help! I had a fantastic 3 days – achieving more than I would ever have imagined! I remembered everything you’d said, and not only did I enjoy it, I also experienced the massive achievement of skiing down red runs!! I’ve attached a photo of me, on a complete high, on Timalets – a run I was always told was too difficult for me!! Who’d have thought…!

Thank you so very much, I shall keep your book for my next trip.

Very best wishes,

Hi Kay,

I just wanted to let you know that I have just this minute finished my first run through of the Ski With Confidence course. I have taken my time over it, I have done the work and you have completely blown my mind with this stuff.

I already feel differently about my holiday which is in about two weeks’ time, normally I am very stressed by this stage. I now understand that the horrible negative chatter that goes on in my head doesn’t need to happen and that I have the power to control this. I have had loads of light bulb moments which make sense to me in other aspects of my life as well (being a 53 year old woman with lots of physical and mental changes going on!!!)

I will continue to do the work and just the feeling of taking control of this fear, which has made my ski holidays so difficult for about the past 10 years, has given me so much more confidence.

I thought I could be the only person who felt this irrational fear about my skiing, it is a revelation to me that I am not alone in this and that I can do something about it and believe me I intend to ????.

Many thanks

Hi Kay,

Just wanted to let you know that I am feeling much much better about skiing!!!  Your techniques are making a big difference.

I was previously only on green runs after having done blues maybe 10 yrs ago with much trepidation.  I had a coach twice last week, and she skied behind me. Between that and doing your program I was much more comfortable.  I was able to ski blues myself and felt happy during most of it.  The steeper stuff was a little frightening but surmountable.  I think the positive thoughts in my head are all the difference.  My “day job” is a ob/gyne and I can tell you that this program also changes the inner dialog I have with myself during emergency situations in my job.  That has significantly decreased my stress.  What a great “side effect”!

I will continue to do your program.  I think for the person motivated to make change it is just the thing that is needed!

Hi Kay,

I just want to let you know what a great time I’ve been having on my holiday with my much more experienced and proficient husband and teenage sons, and how calm and in control I feel after doing my refresher course.

It’s made such a huge difference to my skiing. Have been letting my skis point down the hill and trusting them to turn and do all the work. I’m happily tackling steeper runs, and even inadvertently went onto a black run yesterday. I was skiing with some very experienced skiers who live here so felt a little pressured but also that I was in good hands. I took a deep breath at the top and breathed my way down no problems  Of course it helped that the run was wide and beautifully groomed but it was steeper than I would ordinarily have attempted so I’m giving myself the credit!

Thank you so much for being there with me in spirit.

Hi Kay,

I just want to let you know what a great time I’ve been having on my holiday with my much more experienced and proficient husband and teenage sons, and how calm and in control I feel after doing my refresher course.

It’s made such a huge difference to my skiing. Have been letting my skis point down the hill and trusting them to turn and do all the work. I’m happily tackling steeper runs, and even inadvertently went onto a black run yesterday. I was skiing with some very experienced skiers who live here so felt a little pressured but also that I was in good hands. I took a deep breath at the top and breathed my way down no problems  Of course it helped that the run was wide and beautifully groomed but it was steeper than I would ordinarily have attempted so I’m giving myself the credit! Thank you so much for being there with me in spirit.

Dear Kay,

You have rented space in my head since my skiing trip almost three months ago now. You have been on my ‘could do’ list for that length of time.

I read your book and completed your online course before my skiing trip at Easter.

I thoroughly enjoyed your book and the online course and if it were not for the course I don’t think I would have made it through my trip.

We arrived on the Sunday in Meribel with very little snow which in some ways is a bonus walking around in your ski boots with no ice to navigate.

Monday went really well. And I tried to remember as much from the ’SWC’ course as I could. I really surprised myself and was thrilled.

Then Tuesday came…..

The conditions were very slushy and I had a huge ‘amygdala hijack’. Tuesday night in the chalet the thought going through my head was I am not going on the slopes ever again. The gremlins were loud, alive and kicking.

That night I went to bed listening to your audio and listened again the next morning. This was success for me. By Wednesday afternoon I faced the slopes again.

Towards the end of the week I was managing, greens, blues and some reds.

And for the first time ever I got a sense of the feeling of falling down the slope, letting yourself go off balance in order to make a turn. I never felt that feeling before.

I still have a long way to go but I am making progress. My 8 yr old twin boys are skiing beautifully.

I have revisited the course today and there are lots of nuggets of info to help me in my everyday life. I need to put them into practice.

Thank you again – I definitely made progress.

Kay started skiing when she was 35 and was an anxious, fearful skier. I started when I was 58, and was a very fearful skier. My husband is an expert skier and tried his best to teach me, but honestly at times I thought he pushed me too hard. Sometimes I wonder how I got down the slopes he took me to, because I was simply paralyzed with fear. I thought I was the only person in the world who didn’t love skiing!

Even taking lessons, while I highly recommend them for technique, didn’t allay my fears. I stumbled across Kay’s book and decided to try it. Her style of writing is entertaining and friendly. It’s almost as if we were sitting across from one another at the kitchen table chatting about our experiences.

Her background in coaching and neurolinguistic programming is the ideal combination for giving you instantly attainable tips to use to help you overcome anxiety on the slopes. She’s even included a visualization audio clip (hypnosis really) that I listen to frequently.

Now, every time I go skiing, I read a few key pages, decide on the tips I’ll use for the day, and just go out to practice what it is I’m focused on for the day. I am amazed how I can hear Kay’s voice in my head when I get somewhere that would have normally caused fear to strike! Such a great book for me! I am much more relaxed, able and willing to take on new challenges, and am making break-through strides in improvements.

Thanks for this insightful creation!

Hi Kay

We had a fantastic holiday, and what a difference!  The first few days I skied really well and confidently, and further than I’ve ever skied before.  Even shocked my husband, he decided to ski a bit faster, so he could rest whilst I caught up with him, we were both shocked when I kept up with him.

I had a couple of days were I didn’t feel so confident, but the big difference was, I didn’t once think ‘I can’t do this’.  My skiing may not have been pretty (quite a bit of snow ploughing) on those days, but I still skied everywhere I planned to, including a few slopes I hadn’t skied before.

On the next to last day I had a private lesson with an instructor I’d had before, after 2 hours, I was back to parallel skiing, and skied the steepest slope I have ever been down.  He was very patient, and understood, left & right mean very little to me when skiing!

During the holiday we had loads of snow, and for the first time I skied in powder which came up to my knees, slopes which looked like moguls, in a blizzard and a white out.  I’m normally a bit of a fair weather skier. At times it was hard work, but we just laughed and carried on.

During daily de-brief, in the bar, we had ‘me-me’ time.  It became a running joke, with just one look at my husband he’d say ‘didn’t you do well’.

Thank you so much

Your method really works!  It seems so simple that I didn’t see how it could work. Yet, it did.  We had wonderful, full days of skiing without any time lost due to me being frightened or upset.  Thank you so much!

After 9 years of skiing and knowing what I should be doing but frequently going into meltdown on the mountain, I had to take action. I searched on the internet for a ‘get over your fear of skiing course’ and Kay’s book came up.

I read it in one evening, after a particularly bad day on the mountain where I declared to my ski loving husband that I was not going on another skiing holiday, as this was no fun it was more like mental torture.

I loved the key message of the book ‘breath’ and the top tip of singing as your ski really worked.

Ok I took a few tumbles on the mountain the following day and had a wobble or two, but I really enjoyed the day. My ski instructor and husband both said I was a different women and more importantly a really good skier.

I am so pleased I found this book and only wish ski instructors were more like Kay and addressed irrational fears and not just focused on ski technique.

I can’t thank you enough. Page 1 of your book describing being gripped with fear was a typical scenario on many skiing trips.  After reading Kay’s book and listening to the relaxation download I actually enjoyed every day of my recent ski trip and amazed my friends by joining them on red slopes, opening up a whole new experience.  I would recommend anyone with a fear to try this – it works!

I started skiing a few years ago, age 30+, and instantly fell in love with it. Having made good progress initially, I felt that I’d hit a bit of a wall, and even one-to-one lessons weren’t delivering the improvement I was looking for. Deciding I might need to take a different tack, I downloaded this book and read it before my holiday last year and it really did make all the difference. I can honestly say I experienced pure joy tackling red, and even a few black, slopes – all the while remembering to BREATHE!

The beauty of Kay’s work is in its simplicity; the tips were easy to remember and apply. There is so often a temptation to over-complicate things in life and I really applaud Kay for not going down that route.

I have also found myself unexpectedly applying the techniques from the book in other areas of my life, which has been a great bonus.

Will definitely be re-reading it before I head to the mountains this year. Forget fancy kit…this will very likely be the best money you spend this season!

It was like reading my autobiography, so great to read something that resonates with your own experiences! Can’t wait to put the advice into practice!

Full of useful advice. A much needed book after almost ‘retiring’ last week after 9 years of trying! I will read the book a few more times and use it on my next trip next month and let you know how it goes. At the moment it has made me feel more positive about everything so it’s definitely been money well spent! Keep up the good work!

I just wanted to drop you a line to thank you for your fantastic ‘Skiing with Confidence’ e-book.

I started skiing in 2011 (age 30+) and instantly fell in love with it.  Having made good progress initially, I felt that I’d hit a bit of a wall, and even one-to-one lessons weren’t delivering the improvement I was looking for.  I read your tips before my holiday this year and they really did make all the difference.  I can honestly say I experienced pure joy tackling red, and even a few black, slopes – all the while remembering to BREATHE!

For me it was the simplicity of your tips that made them so valuable – they were easy to remember and apply.  There is so often a temptation to over-complicate things in life, so I applaud you for not going down that route!

I’m already counting down the months to next season!  Will definitely be re-reading the tips before I head to the mountains, and I will wholeheartedly recommend the e-book to other tentative skiers I know.

I have also found myself unexpectedly applying your techniques in other areas of my life, which has been a great bonus. Thank you so much!

Very simple but effective. I’ve been skiing for about 18 years, never bombed down a black run but always comfortable on reds and blues. Then about two years ago I completely lost my confidence. Still went on the annual family holiday but was finding more and more reasons to take ” a rest day”

With this year’s holiday coming up I did a search and came across this. I only had 5 days before my holiday so wasn’t sure if i had enough time but I started reading the tips and listening to the mp3.

First day of skiing and I knew something was different straight away. I wasn’t petrified.

The lift that took you to the top of the blue wasn’t running , so my husband explained we’d have to take another lift and get there via a short red. I think we were both amazed when I said “alright then!” No umming or arring.I just got on the lift and did it. I’m not going to pretend I was doing black runs within the hour. I stuck to trusted blues, but the point is I enjoyed skiing again.

We came home at the weekend, and I returned to work on Monday. I’m not particularly happy in my job and usually wake up with a sense of dread on a Monday, particularly after ten days off. However that feeling of dread wasn’t there? It could be a coincidence of course , but I have a feeling my self-confidence has been raised in all aspects of my life.

I’m off skiing again next week having not gone in 2015 and know I would greatly benefit from hearing your recording again. I’ve already started to re-read your amazing book.

Many thanks.